Being a woman is a blessing and it also can become a burden if you don't know who you are or what you want from life. I'm not the only woman who has created a bucket list for meeting men. My best friend is not my ideal guy because he is not born again.I tried to change him in the beginning and then realized if he accepts me for being spiritual, then it was time for me to let him be and just keep praying for him or find another friend.Years later, he is the most faithful guy friend I know. So from experience ladies, stop trying to change a man to become your Mr.Perfect. If he doesn’t have what you want or need in a guy, leave him alone and move on!!! I know it's easier said than done but if I did it before, surely God can do the same through you if YOU let Him.
John's father owns a very successful produce company; he’s a great giver and loves the ladies. Did you recognize a spirit between John and his dad? Hope you did. Over the past 4 years, we have only met maybe 4 or 5 times to have lunch because he lives in another state. So we’ve built an amazing telephone and cyber relationship lol. But contrary to what the world thinks, a relationship can experience true intimacy outside of sex. John knows me well and we both know when to back off each other and when we just need to pray. He even knows when it's that time of the month and all I want him to do is shut up and listen to me scream on the phone.Sounds like the perfect guy huh? Yeah I know. But keep reading because I'm about to take you somewhere.
John knows that I take my spiritual life seriously. He’s never disrespected me but throughout the years, he has created an image of a Christian through me.If he curses on the phone, he apologizes because he knows I don't curse.Now remember I mentioned earlier that being a woman can become a burden if we're not careful.Somehow I've allowed my heart to overpower my emotions knowing that I cannot get what my flesh wants.So last month we both fasted from the telephone so I can stay focus on my journey. This is about saving my soul. I recognized that I started to fall in love with the thought of being in love again. So what's wrong with that? Nothing. It's a problem when our emotions get entangled with the WRONG person at the WRONG time. I refuse to make myself believe a lie that we can be more than just friends (humming “We can’t be friends” by Deborah Cox). As believers, we must stop negotiating with the devil. The word of God is here to protect us. God promises that if we wait on Him, seek his kingdom first, he will give us everything that we need—which includes a spouse.
But if we say as women that a man will respect us and then do things contrary to our words-that’s called hypocrisy. Last year while on the phone, John said that Christian girls are so
fake.I asked him to explain. He began to share with me of how he got a Christian girl who was involved in ministry to fornicate. First of all, I called him out. But he made me see the problem. He said the girl told him she was saving herself for marriage but always wanted to “chill out” with him knowing he loves sex. So of course, he took her out a lot and next thing he knew, one night home girl was screaming his name. OMG!!! I told him he was a dog and he was going to hell for that. But was it really his fault? Ladies please set a standard and let’s not put ourselves in positions that will cause us to fall. The enemy is out to steal, kill and destroy 24 hours a day!
I love my soul too much and had too many heart breaks. God has done an awesome job healing my broken heart over the years. John said that I need to keep my emotions in check because he is not the one for me. In a world where everyone is having sex, I am the only friend he has that lives what she reads.To John, I’m literally a saint. Why? I get so pissed when he calls me Mother Teresa because I’m saving myself for marriage & not dating guys for fun. These last few words brought tears to my eyes. John said that as long as he lives and has hormones, he will not come near me because he’s a man that is now physically attracted to me. He does not want to be responsible for getting me pregnant and not fulfilling purpose. John said that I am marriage material and nothing less. I was quiet for at least 5 minutes.I am so blessed because God placed a man in my life that loves my soul more than my body. God has showed him a glimpse of how powerful I AM even though I haven’t seen it yet. So what’s my point you ask? Don’t live and make major life decisions based on your emotions. Emotions will get you in trouble especially if you’re a woman. Do not follow your flesh. Instead hold your head up, set standards and ACT like a Proverbs 31 woman and wait for your king? So choose you this day who YOU will serve.
