We live in a world where success,happiness and love are defined by what we possess.I agree that yes,the amount of things we possess may be perceived as a level of success, but in whose eyes do we consider what true success looks like?
Like a chameleon,our lives are meant to go through transition no matter who we are.
If you're life is not changing then begin to ask yourself is it you or are you fighting nature and its purpose for your life? As for myself, this statement is a part of who I am now becoming as a young lady.
One of the things I have been challenged with and meditated on recently is why in the midst of a crowd,family,and even a soul mate,we still tend to feel a sense of loneliness? Loneliness is defined as being without company.Okay,so if this is the definition then why when in the presence of company we still feel lonely? This experience can be so painful that in some cases result in suicide.I am convinced that by following the word of God it can get you two things- the result you want or the result GOD wants. If you are a Christian,what God wants should be our utmost desire.
Growing up in a home where loved one were always around,I still often isolated myself. I know you're probably asking why I did this.Well I have been trying to figure that out myself.Even now living and experiencing college life,I still isolate myself when the activities or people don't interest me.I realized that I have not found like-minded people so I started to..well..get lonely.
Of course I got frustrated but who was I frustrated with? At myself or at God?As a result it brought me to the place of asking myself why am I feeling lonely now more than ever at this point in my life?
The reason I say this point is because there is so much I am grateful for and have accomplished at 24 years of age,motherless,single,a new college student at one of the top black schools and a foreigner in a strange land. Don't get me wrong I have people that I talk to and hang out with,but they don't keep me happy all the time.
I was sitting in a dark room,quiet,still and eyes filled with tears I asked again,"why am I lonely in this new place?" I know that I am friendly, but that was not it.After a few minutes, the response given was that I feel lonely but really I am not??!!! Yeah, going back to what I previously mentioned about whose eyes was happiness defined in. Well apparently I was drawn back to the word of God that says in Deut 30 verse 6," DO NOT BE AFRAID OR DISCOURAGED, FOR THE LORD GOES WITH YOU;HE WILL NEVER LEAVE YOU NOR FORSAKE YOU."
God is the only one who does not lie to us. So if He has not forsaken me then that means not only is He always around me,but I should never feel lonely.Which brings me to my next question. Are we as human beings lonely because we desire to be with someone or are we just really empty and have no understanding of contentment internally? This was where I found myself. Basically my instructions were to be still,wait, allow Him to fill me with love and believe that my niche of people were being prepared for me.
Another reason we get lonely is that we go out and seek people and things that God did not desire for our lives.These people then become influential especially while we're vulnerable.That statement really got me.Now, to combat that loneliness is a state of mind and not a feeling,I am learning how to spend time alone,enjoy my own company and be joyful.While waiting to be surrounded by God's chosen people for my life,I am letting God show me how to be content in every state.
LONELINESS IS A STATE OF MIND AND NOT A FEELING.
So if you're like me or millions of people around the world, there is nothing or no one that can truly make you happy.According to the word of God there is no money, material or person that can provide true happiness.Which means that we must be groomed into becoming confident.In diagnosis of this plaguing disease called "feeling lonely and depressed", the only prescription that will cure this problem is getting to know Jesus. He works in conjunction with God and the Holy spirit who resides in you.But to get to them,you must first ask them to come into your life and fix what's wrong and then you can be healed!!
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